Comments on: Are Black Women Destined to be Single?

By: Single Black Woman » Loving and Living Over 40

Single Black Woman » Loving and Living Over 40 — Fri, 06 Jan 2012 16:02:15 +0000

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By: Victoria

Victoria — Sat, 10 Dec 2011 16:59:00 +0000

I do not think the issue is as trivial as a “lack of respect” that is in the same vein as the myth of “disgruntled black women”. For the most part the black community is far more matriarchal than the white community. This has been the case for decades. To me it seems that there is a far deeper issue at the root of these, black men seem to go out of their way to date outside of their race.

Having lived in South London all my life there have been plenty of opportunites to meet black men and yet I have never dated or been approached by one in a club. Yet all of my white friends have? Now I predict this may provoke some ignorant off the cuff response but I am trying to truly understand what is going on? I am in my late 20′s, university educated and in a good career I am worried for all the younger black girls out there – what hope do they have?

By: Prince

Prince — Fri, 09 Sep 2011 06:25:00 +0000

Everybody has his own part to play in this issue. Girls don’t like normal black men, they like handsome strong men who are jobless. When a black man looks honest or is honest, girls take him as a weak person. Black ladies are asking for too much, are not those useless blackmen who makes a good husband for the white ladies. I see a situation where the black girls are too sturbone and disrespectful to their men. And no man in his correct senses will like to live with a woman who does not respect him. These talk of equality in the house seems to happen only in the black comunity, when you meet a white girl she hadly tells you about equality in the house and she always respects you. I can say with authority because i have tried the two of them and i see the white ladies are more respecful than the black ladies. And nobody should be so stupid to live with somebody who will be fighting him everyday, so black ladies you should read your bible and see that man is the head of the family or you will loose all your men to the white ladies.

By: Lee

Lee — Tue, 07 Dec 2010 16:31:40 +0000

You know what! this has been pre-destined from long ago…….Certain white societies, (not being racist) Have not wanted a Strong black family to succeed being to powerful, hence whenever a black man of leadership rises, no need to mention names he his promptly shot down, In fear of some kinda rebel of the people of colour or Black people. Maybe White people living in fear of what they have done in there past, and it coming back to haunt them…..

Also this about Black males dating outside there own race is detrimental to the black race, watering down of the race is a terrible thing, And with the loss of identity will not be good, especially with the lack of it they posses already. Not meaning to be anti mixed race, But it is a real problem now and will get a lot worst in the future.

Lack of a Father role within the family home has been a major factor in the cause of how the black male Youths of today are behaving. But what leads to this! You have to look at the schooling and the help a young man is getting wether he be black or white. Young men seem to need the more help then there female counterparts who tend to be less influenced into the wrongs then there male counterparts. But it go’s much much deeper than that. (What I am about to say I don’t care who it offends) White society do not want to see the black man do well and become a partner to his Black sister because as a unit they are very powerful……So to make it harder for the young black man and to set as many stereo types and obstacles in his way as they possibly can through media and other resources under there control, and to make there own Sisters not want them is what there trying to achieve, and succeeding. This is what you get, And not so indirect if your a black man from within looking out, Not a white person looking in. You can’t possibly think you know how and what a black person feels just because you work with or go out with a Black Man/Woman. Or even teach the black youths.

As a white Lady/Man you will never know the affects of being a black person of any age, I don’t care who you work with who you marry or have children with.

On the other hand am I a 41 years old Black man who has found a good dark skinned sister after being single for a long time, We connect strongly and I Me! never thought of straying as I call it, Having being approached and having looks from all types of women in clubs and bars and in the place of work. But I like to think as myself as a strong black man, not just because I date and love black women and love everything about them, But I stick to and support them through thick and thin, That go’s for all of my Black brothers and sisters.

ConsciousLee

By: tabloodsaw

tabloodsaw — Sat, 13 Mar 2010 07:39:45 +0000

You mimic my sentiment. It's a dire situation, we have to all take responsibility and do SOMETHING!

By: Allison

Allison — Tue, 12 Jan 2010 18:40:34 +0000

So, I couldn’t speak with any authority on black communities, being white, is that right? It’s not ‘whiteness’ that prevents you from speaking intelligently or insightfully about what may or may not be happening in ethnic communities — it’s having no interest. And yet you presume to speak on behalf of (all) boys and men. Interesting.

By: Allison

Allison — Tue, 12 Jan 2010 18:40:00 +0000

By: Bruce Sallan

Bruce Sallan — Sat, 09 Jan 2010 22:46:45 +0000

The problem seems to be deeper than this in that boys aren’t allowed to be boys anymore. Primary education punishes them for anything resembling aggressive behavior, there are no heroes for them anymore, and they’re being raised with too much estrogen, too much of the time – at home and at school. We’ve shifted our priorities in very damaging ways. It’s great that there’s more equality for women but when college enrollment is 55% women, it’s not good for either gender! I can’t speak with any authority on the black community, being white, but I can speak about boys and men as that’s what I write about as well as just generally being the best dad you can be in my column, “A Dad’s Point-of-View” and my momlogic.com blog, “Just A Guy.”

Thoughtful views here which I appreciate. Please visit my website at http://www.brucesallan.com if you’d care to read more of my thoughts or engage in discussion or join my page at FB called “A Dad’s Point-of-View”.

Thanks Melyvn for speaking from the heart, the truth, and without any PC bullshit!

By: Bruce Sallan

Bruce Sallan — Sat, 09 Jan 2010 22:46:00 +0000

Thanks Melyvn for speaking from the heart, the truth, and without any PC bullshit!

By: Melvyn Davis

Melvyn Davis — Sat, 09 Jan 2010 21:58:00 +0000

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